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Lesson # Matt. 10:37
Study Material - Matt. 10:37
You must be in fellowship prior to your Bible study, so that the spiritual information you receive can become a source, of blessing to your soul and produce spiritual growth.
37 He that loveth [phileo] father [pater] or [e] mother [meter] more than [huper] me [eme] is [esti] not [ou] worthy [axios] of me [mou] : and [kai] he that loveth [phileo] son [huios] or [e] daughter [thugater] more than [huper] me [eme] is [esti] not [ou] worthy [axios] of me [mou] . KJV-Interlinear
37 'He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. NAS
'Phileo', love has to do with feelings of the heart. This connotes more emotional response or reaction. 'Agapao', another word for love, but not used here, deals with the mind. It has to do with ones attitude toward society, dealing more with tolerance than emotional feelings of passion.
The previous study saw Jesus quoting Mic. 7:6. That passage dealt with naughty children, or incorrigible children, or children that went astray from the norm of society. It dealt with children who rejected authority, who were disobedient, who were leading a consistent pattern of a negative life.
This passage does not apply to children who occasionally cross the line. We all need to understand that there is a very big difference between a child who forgets to clean up his room, or forgets to do his homework, or forgets to do chores. Remember that the teen is a beast who has lost his mind and is living through a cycle of temporary insanity ... a ... but they still know everything. This is humor of course!!
Now there is a type of child that really has a bad attitude, the gang member, the one who is truly incorrigible and who rejects society to an extreme. The way to deal with both types of children is the same in principle. We look to principles of Bible doctrine to communicate with them.
The first child may only need a stern warning, with appropriate threats of doom, Mothers are usually good at the threat part, and of course they generally use the dad in the role of the doom part. 'You'd better get your chores done before your father gets home!' Emphasis on the term 'father' thus implying that WW-III will unleash all manner of pain on the appropriate sitting portion, where the teens brain cells are rumored to reside!
Hummm. I wonder if I'll lose some students over these little remarks???
The second type of child, the incorrigible one, usually winds up in trouble with the law. While parents can issue certain threatening challenges to the child of the first type and usually get a good response, the second type of child will ignore the threats of parental authority and thus will need threats of violence of a greater form. This is usually law enforcement, the slammer, or some special home for the unruly..
Now we deal with members of our family the same way that we should be dealing with our own personal lives - through principles of doctrine. We do not support bad behavior in our own life. That is, when we fail we look to god in our confession to reinstate ourselves back into fellowship. We judge (evaluate) ourselves that we will not be judged (disciplined) by God.
The key to this verse is not love, but worthiness. How are we worthy to God? Not by acts or deeds, but by spiritual growth inside the fellowship sphere where we were designed to live. If we deal with family members in a manner that is inconsistent with Gods Word (we have a favorite child - wrong, we overlook their crossing the line - wrong, we fail to discipline, fail to instruct, fail to guide in a proper way) then we are not worthy, as it were. We have failed in our function in life with respect to our dealings with other members of the family.
This passage indirectly deals with marriage in that each spouse (husband and wife) do not belong to themselves, but they belong to the other person. This subject will be dealt with in later books, but suffice to say, we are failures if we deal with family members improperly.
Principles of life are taught in the Word of God. Our priority lies with our daily study. We do not superimpose our family onto our life at the expense of our daily study. Likewise we similarly do not go overboard in our self righteousness and abandon our family because we think we need to be with God. God gave you a family and expects you to be responsible both to Him, and to them.
God is fair and just. He would never expect you to sacrifice your family for His sake, unless there was a situation where your family went to fight with an enemy in a war, and you found yourself shooting at each other. But that is probably not situation in which any of us will find ourselves.
Common sense rules here. God is patient and wise. We need to be the same.
Now is the time to post a prayer.
End Of Lesson
Study to show thyself approved (mature) unto God, a workman that needs not to be ashamed, rightly dividing (studying/discerning), the Word of truth.
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